Kathryn and Justin
Newport, Rhode Island
Jewelry | Bedrosian Jewelers
Kathryn and Justin
Newport, Rhode Island
Jewelry | Bedrosian Jewelers
We found a venue that had an understated elegance, which we felt spoke for itself and therefore needed little from us to make it a beautiful space: beachfront property, enormous windows with white draping allowing for an abundance of natural light, modern but delicate decor with a nod to the nautical, and operating as an event-space only with experts to guide us through in-house catering and recommended vendors. Due to the subtle and natural beauty of the venue itself, our decor was minimalist and simple, comprising of floral arrangements throughout the space.
We looked for a venue at which neither of us had attended a wedding before, so that our memories were unique to the day. We found a venue that had an understated elegance, which we felt spoke for itself and therefore needed little from us to make it a beautiful space: beachfront property, enormous windows with white draping allowing for an abundance of natural light, modern but delicate decor with a nod to the nautical, and operating as an event-space only with experts to guide us through in-house catering and recommended vendors. The inspiration behind our wedding was to offer our guests a midsummer event in a locale near-and-dear to our hearts and to throw one heck of a dance party. While neither of us is particularly religious, we knew that elements of the christian faith was important to some of our family members, and therefore had the ceremony officiated by a minister who truly took the time to get to know us, resulting in a ceremony that was authentic and sincere.
Due to the subtle and natural beauty of the venue itself, our decor was minimalist and simple, comprising of floral arrangements throughout the space. The DIY elements were limited to signage (such as our welcome sign, reserved ceremony seating, etc.), wedding favors, and a “remembrance table” for our grandparents. The best DIY piece was a marquee sign of our last name, which was placed in front of our sweetheart table; I really enjoyed making this piece as it brought in a touch of “rustic” and is something from our wedding that we now have in our home.
Maintaining the minimalist theme, our florals were modest. Other than the bridal bouquet, which was a cascading design of mostly white florals with touches of pastel blues and greens, all other floral designs were variations of white and green: a whimsical design of white flowers and vines draped over a gate for an arbor effect in the ceremony, white flower and greenery glass vase arrangements hanging from every other chair down the aisle, glass vases with tall delphinium and white roses down the stairs to the ceremony, tall arrangements on gold geometric stands with bursting arrangements of greenery and seasonal white florals on the terrace, garlands used as tie backs on the white draped high tops during the reception, a tall arrangement at the center of the table for both the escort card table and family remembrance table, guest table arrangements alternating between low & sprawling centerpieces or tall glass cylindrical vases filled with white delphinium accompanied by glass votive candles, and a garland of greenery and accents of white for the sweetheart table. The bridesmaid bouquets were similarly simple with white roses and greenery to contrast with their cerulean blue dresses, while the flower girls had baskets filled with white rose petals, and the mothers each carried a single red rose.
The only addition made to the evening was to incorporate a cigar bar on the terrace, which turned out to be a big hit amongst the gentlemen. There was a wooden sign ordered from Etsy, large ceramic ashtrays, a wood-and-metal (bringing back the “rustic”) box of customized matchboxes, and a variety of cigar boxes handpicked by my husband. My absolute favorite part of the wedding (post “I-do’s”, of course) was seeing the continued excitement on our guests’ faces and that the dance floor was completely filled with boundless energy throughout the evening.
This bride truly struggled to find *the dress*, whereas the groom had his attire decided on swiftly and surely. He was determined from day one to have a look that represented his style rather than go with a strictly standard or traditional black tux; whereas he wore a tux, it was one he chose for specific design elements such as the color, cut and texture and he went the same route for choosing the groomsmen’s look. The deep blue of his tux with the contrast of the black satin lapel was sleek, and his feather boutonniere was a nod to a family tradition shared with his father to whom we gifted the same boutonniere, and he was adamant on velvet shoes as a finishing touch to the look. I struggled to find a dress appropriate for my body shape and petite frame (I was determined not to look like a cupcake) and also true to my style – something traditional (enough) but unique. An exercise that truly helped me narrow my search after several failed attempts, was to make a list of words that I would want to have used to describe the dress along with a list of those I would definitely not want to have used. It helped me to determine that a unique design was most important to me, as well as having something that had traditional elements while being less standard overall. Exhaustion and panic about coming up against a time constraint certainly came into play on the final decision, but the dress I chose ultimately made me feel confident and was a dress that made my husband say both “wow” and “that’s so very Kathryn”. With the off-white color, lace overlay, tattoo-effect on the back, and long train, I felt like a bolder version of myself.With all of the detail in the lace and beading of the dress, I did not want to detract from the look with statement jewelry, and therefore chose a pair of delicate slim gold-tone dangle earrings that had the perfect effect of simply framing my face and adding a softer touch of femininity. One element I was not expecting to love as much as I did was the veil – a cathedral length soft tulle with a plain pencil edge. The veil was certainly more of an afterthought, but it was truly a finishing touch that tied the look together and made the moment feel very real.
We actually met at work, both of us usually working late at the same time and therefore striking up conversation. Talks would last hours, and we were both immediately comfortable with each other. The proposal took place – like our wedding – in Newport, RI. This, plus several vacations prior, is why we decided to look in Newport for the venue – the city has played a role in our courtship, proposal, wedding, and will hopefully continue to do so in future celebrations.We kicked off an at-home vacation with a weekend in Newport, and decided to rent a private boat (which we captained ourselves) since we’d spoken often about going out to enjoy a summer day in Narragansett Bay. We had anchored about halfway through the day to enjoy some food, drinks and music, lulled by the calm waters and sunshine. It was at that moment he worked up the nerves to ask if I would spend the rest of my life with him; though it certainly sounded like a proposal, I was momentarily speechless until he drew out a ring box and said “will you marry me” – at which I point, rather than the sophisticated dewy-eyed “yes” I’d imagined, I promptly burst into tears before getting out a “yes” at his further prompting. Jokes aside, the proposal was perfect because it afforded us absolute privacy, time to enjoy the rest of the trip and make those first calls to family & friends, and then the rest of the week to celebrate while on vacation.
The most anticipated moment was seeing each other for the first time as I walked down the aisle (we chose to forego the First Look). It was one of the most nerve-wracking experiences of my life in the moments leading up to the those steps – nerves that were immediately settled when we both broke out in smiles and were so very *present* in the moment.
If you’re a type-A planner and list-maker (like myself), remember to schedule time *away* from wedding planning to refocus your energy and remind yourself about the things that really and truly matter. That said, remember that the wedding is a single day out of the rest of your marriage, and is ultimately a celebration.