I feel like I definitely need to mention the gift given to us by our friends. They gave us a card, which inside said ‘Valid for one free puppy’. We’d been talking about getting a dog for a long time but nothing concrete and hadn’t really made any moves towards it. So this essentially made the decision for us. When we got back from our honeymoon, we got onto it straight away and are now the proud parents of the most beautiful and amazing dog in the world, Butch. He’s this incredibly striking, adorably shy, all-black whippet and he’s changed our lives—every day we feel like our hearts will explode with how much we love the little guy. It was seriously the most epic gift and he feels extra special because of it, like each one of our friends has a little stake in him and he has this big extended family of people who love him.
Reading by best friend, Kylie Hall-Haydon
From Letters to Vera by Vladimir Nabokov
Yes, I need you, my fairy-tale. Because you are the only person I can talk with about the shade of a cloud, about the song of a thought — and about how, when I went out to work today and looked a tall sunflower in the face, it smiled at me with all of its seeds.
How can I explain to you, my happiness, my golden wonderful happiness, how much I am all yours — with all my memories, poems, outbursts, inner whirlwinds? Or explain that I cannot write a word without hearing how you will pronounce it — and can’t recall a single trifle I’ve lived through without regret that we haven’t lived through it together — whether it’s the most, the most personal, intransmissible — or only some sunset or other at the bend of a road — you see what I mean, my happiness? I swear by all that’s dear to me, all I believe in — I swear that I have never loved before as I love you, — with such tenderness — to the point of tears — and with such a sense of radiance.
TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT YOURSELVES, WHAT YOU DO, WHAT YOU LOVE, WHAT IS UNIQUE ABOUT YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP…
Olivia: I’m a senior copywriter at a creative studio in Melbourne, Adam is a personal trainer. We live for music, dancing and traveling. We’ve got a super-close circle of friends and they’re a huge part of our relationship—we just try to have as much fun as possible together and it’s led to some epic holidays, adventures, festivals and just wild experiences so far. Our best friends came on our honeymoon and we celebrated in Berlin and Amsterdam together. For us, life is about having as much fun as possible with the people we love.
HOW/WHERE/WHEN DID YOU MEET?
We met in high school, although we weren’t high school sweethearts—just friends. After school finished in 2004, we drifted apart and didn’t see each other for years. I was on holiday in Bali at the end of 2011 with my family and a particularly flattering photo of Adam popped up on Facebook. He was at a festival, tanned and shiny (Adam could spend five minutes in the winter sun and pick up a tan like he’s been in the Greek Islands for six months), climbing a rock-climbing wall. I thought to myself, ‘hmm, Remmers is looking good… I’ll just reach out and say hey and see what he’s up to.’ He was actually pretty bad with getting back to me and it took about three or four months before he asked ‘if I wanted to catch up for a beer’ and I remember thinking, ‘a beer… beer is ‘friends’ speak. Bummer.’
WHAT’S SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP? WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT EACH OTHER?
We always want to do the same things, we love the same stuff, which means we’re pretty much always on the same page.
Olivia: Adam is so wildly loyal. He’ll do absolutely anything for his family and friends. Among our friends, he’s the one we all go to for help, advice and support. I’m always in awe of his ability to help people with their problems like that – he just offers this sense of comfort and support, his advice is always unbiased and fair, it’s a pretty incredible talent/skill/ability, whatever you call it.
Adam: I admire her unwavering compassion, love and loyalty to those that are not only people close to her, but also to people she has never met. I find these qualities so beautiful and they make me strive to be a better person.
HAVE YOU FACED ANY CHALLENGES YOU WANT TO SHARE WITH READERS?
Over our seven years together, we’ve watched ourselves and the other grow up a lot. When you’re 25, you don’t know as much about being in a relationship as you think you do… then as time passes, you just learn to be better together, more patient, understanding and far more willing to not sweat the small stuff.
WAS THERE A PROPOSAL? TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT IT…
Adam’s proposal personifies him as a person – the lengths he’ll go to make something special for you and to show you how much he cares. We were going on a five-week holiday on a Monday and planned to both take the Friday off work to have lunch and just celebrate how excited we were to be going to Burning Man with our friends. When I woke up, Adam wasn’t there but there was a note on the kitchen bench, next to a croissant and some breakfast stuff that said he’d be back for lunch, but in the meantime, I should go to the nail salon down the road because they were waiting for me. So I trotted off to the nail salon, came back to find another note, a charcuterie board and a bottle of champagne. The note apologized for telling a fib, that I should enjoy a glass of champagne and that a car would be downstairs to pick me up at 2 to take me to Mecca to get my makeup done – oh and that there was a new dress in the wardrobe for me. The car dropped me at Mecca on Lt Collins Street; the girl asked what I was up to and I said ‘I think my boyfriend might be proposing to me..’ When my makeup was finished, I said to the girl ‘I have no idea what I’m meant to do next’ and she said ‘I do’ and handed me an envelope with the last little piece of the puzzle – another note and a room key from the Adelphi. When I opened the hotel door, a song that’s super special to me and Adam was playing and Adam was down on one knee. I have zero memory of anything he said – I remember thinking ‘shit, I’m going to cry all my makeup off’. He was so nervous and I was in such a daze that it was honestly like a first date – but that quickly faded away and we drank champagne and danced around the room, before heading out for a beautiful dinner. It was pretty epic – I was blown away by how much thought had gone into every detail, because Adam just wanted it to be so perfect and so special and so memorable, which, of course, it was.
WHAT WENT TO PLAN AND WHAT DIDN’T?
He was petrified all day that we’d intercept each other somehow as his little treasure hunt was unfolding, but it all came off without a hitch.
TELL US ABOUT YOUR SPECIAL DAY… WAS THERE A SPECIFIC THEME OR STYLE? TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT THE SETTING, THE STYLING AND SOME OF YOUR FAVORITE DETAILS…
There was no theme or style, we just wanted something warm and intimate with our closest friends, family and family friends who’ve known us forever. Our ceremony kicked off at midday, rolled straight into a long lunch, then just boozed into the afternoon with a spot of impromptu dancing towards the end. We left Longsong around 7, hopped across the lane to New Gold Mountain, which we’d hired for the night, then sort of cut loose with our parents and closest friends. It was honestly perfect.
TELL US ABOUT YOUR MAIN OUTFITS, WHAT WAS UNIQUE, IS THERE A STORY?
I flew with Sydney to go to Alex Perry’s flagship after trying on a few of his dresses in Myer Melbourne. I didn’t want anything white or traditional. I was trying on orange, yellow and black and loved them all but thought it would be worth looking through Alex Perry’s bigger range in his Sydney store. When we got there (my mum, sisters and I) the shop had far less than I’d hoped. I was super bummed, thinking I’d wasted everyone’s time. They didn’t have the ones I’d liked in Melbourne and I was thinking the whole trip was a fizzer. When we were about to leave, the lovely shop assistant asked if I wanted to try on this long, white, flowy-sleeves number. I didn’t. I didn’t like the look of it and couldn’t see myself in it. I’d tried on a similar one of his in yellow and preferred that. She insisted quite emphatically, so I tried it on and, well, everyone convinced me it was ‘the one’ and after a few minutes standing there in it, I realized they were right. Thank gosh for the shop assistant’s insistence or, much to my mum’s despair, I probably would have gone for Alex Perry’s big boofy, sheeny black number, which my sisters, while supportive, hinted that it looked a little like a giant garbage bag, haha.
WHAT WERE SOME OF THE MOST MEMORABLE/UNIQUE MOMENTS FROM THE DAY?
Hehe, seeing Adam burst into tears as I walked towards him—I turned the corner and into his line of sight and he just put his hand up to cover his face, it was pretty adorable. Towards the end of the afternoon, after Adam and I each gave a quick speech, I surprised Adam with a song that I’d asked our musician to learn specially for him. It’s a super special song that Adam, his sister, Laura, and I absolutely love—an old-school electronic track that Joshua sang a beautiful acoustic version of. It ended up being an unplanned first dance, so for the first 60 seconds when Adam couldn’t tell what song it was, it was pretty funny/awkward. But then the lyrics came on and Adam teared up again— (Sky and Sand by Paul Kalkbrenner)
ANY ADVICE FOR OTHER COUPLES PLANNING TO SPEND THE REST OF THEIR LIVES TOGETHER?
Don’t’ sweat the small stuff. Never forget the importance of having fun together, doing things and going places that are purely fun-oriented, even if others don’t understand and think you need to grow up, haha, never! Stay young and silly forever.
WHAT DOES BEING MARRIED OR BEING IN A UNION MEAN TO YOU? AND WHAT IS MARRIED LIFE LIKE SO FAR?
We’re both from close families, so we’ve always had that comfort and support that a close-knit family offers. But for us, being married gives you that feeling of unshakeable comfort and safety, knowing that no matter what’s going on, you’re in it together. That became a bit of a mantra for us over the years; when we find ourselves in sticky situations big or small, it’s just like ‘oh well, as long as we’re together’ and it’s ridiculous how comforting it is.