Victoria and Adam
Pinehurst, North Carolina
Venue | The Village Chapel
Invitation Designer | Reaves Engraving
Hair Stylist | Elevation Hair Studio
Victoria and Adam
Pinehurst, North Carolina
Venue | The Village Chapel
Invitation Designer | Reaves Engraving
Hair Stylist | Elevation Hair Studio
Adam & Tori’s wedding was planned for September 15th… unfortunately Hurricane Florence hit NC, cancelling many of their family and wedding party’s flights. But they wouldn’t let hurricane Flow get them down. they regrouped and rescheduled their wedding for October 27th…everyone who RSVP’d to their big day committed to be there and celebrate their wedding day. And it was quite the celebration! What started as a chance meeting on Halloween (she was dressed as a French Maid… he was the most interesting man (the Dos Equis Man)… turned into an amazing love and a timeless and elegant wedding.
Ever since I was a little girl I have always been inspired by the Old Hollywood era of the 1920s glam and the grand yet classy celebrations of the Great Gatsby. Art Deco Gatsby Glam was the inspiration behind our day highlighted with black and gold drama with accents of pearls and feathers. On the eve of our wedding, we hosted our rehearsal dinner at The Pinehurst Member’s Club House for our bridal party, and for dessert we hosted all of our out of town guests for “Sips & Sweets” which was inspired by the whimsy and jewel tones of a secret garden. Decorated with unique rich gemstone colored flowers swept with greenery amongst gold lanterns, bud vases and candles, the 30’ long table was brought to life by a DIY floor plan of mixed décor consisting of items such as the gold lantern center piece that was a wedding shower gift as well as many geodes that soon would live on the shelves of our new built ins in our family room. We had numbered each decorative item and placed them on the floor spanning out 30’ throughout my parent’s home to be ready and organized for the day of setup. Instead of renting linens, I had found table cloths and napkins that I had fallen in love with a teal organic marble watercolor effect that were on clearance, so for less money we bought enough for the rehearsal dinner and “Sips & Sweets” and we now can use them for entertaining post wedding. Our wedding was not only a day of celebration but also one of religious and sentimental importance. Not only did we want to make our wedding memorable and unique but we also wanted to honor our families that brought us together. I had always imagined that the most intimate and special day of my life would have me surrounded by those who loved and knew me best. When deciding who would officiate our wedding it was essential to have someone who knew us personally, which is why we ended up having 3 ministers to make it extra official! One minister was my religion professor at High Point University, one was my lunch buddy and chaplain at HPU and the other was the minister of The Village Chapel where my parents attend church.
Throughout our engagement Adam and I would have dinner with my previous professors for them to get to know us better as a couple and advise us on our future nuptials. During the ceremony we not only wanted to celebrate our love but we wanted to honor both of our families and the bond that had been made between the two. It is a Catholic tradition to honor The Virgin Mother Mary, we wanted to honor both of the matriarchs or our families with the song “Ave Maria”. During “The Tribute to Mothers” both of our mothers joined us at the alter with their flowers and combined them both in an arrangement symbolizing both families being united. To continue to honor the relationships that have role modeled marriage for us we lined the cocktail hall with pictures of our parent’s, grandparent’s and great grandparent’s wedding photos.
We wanted to share our love story with our guests and take advantage of all of the beautiful photography we had done by Jennifer B. Photography for our engagement photos so we had made a memory table that showcased photos of our engagement as well as a sign that highlighted special dates in our relationship. All of the bars were accented with specialty drink signs and fun straws accented with pearls that were Gatsby party themed. We also made all of the stationary timeline graphics that were printed by Reaves Engraving to keep guests aware of the wedding weekend events which were included in the welcome bags that we filled with treats, snacks, wedding recovery kits and brochures and coupons for local attractions as well as a souvenir cook book of historical Pinehurst recipes; each of these were waiting for our guests at their hotels upon arrival. The most special DIY item would be my wedding veil. I have always wanted a classic birdcage veil ever since I saw Reese Witherspoon in “Sweet Home Alabama” and after looking for the perfect veil and not falling in love with any of the price tags, my mother who had designed my aunt’s wedding gown surprised me by making the perfect marriage to my dress with a stunning classic birdcage veil accompanied by a pearl accented barrette.
The reception décor was inspired by the Old Hollywood era of the 1920s glam and the grand yet classy celebrations of the Art Deco Great Gatsby; highlighted with black and gold drama with accents of pearls and feathers. During cocktail hour the high-top tables were dressed with pearl accented table cloths and unique floral of deep jewel tones with hints of black feathers. Inside our reception grand ballroom, all of the tables were either dressed with black table linens or black with a gold overlay similar to the bridesmaids apparel. The Bridal Party’s table was highlighted in a heavenly white with dustings of gold and pearls.
The one thing that I was sure of is that I wanted my bouquet to be classic, romantic, simple and not take away from my dress. My favorite flowers are orchids and Jack Hadden Florals did a gorgeous job at creating a sophisticated art deco inspired, monochromatic white orchid bouquet; hand tied with ivory ribbon and accented with a beautiful crystal brooch with the base of the stems encrusted with pearls.
Since each bridesmaid was going to be wearing different dresses I didn’t want the flowers to take away from their fashions or make them look busy therefore, each bridesmaid carried a delicate yet simple gathering of purple calla lily stems framed by one white orchid and one green cymbidium orchid. To keep the look sophisticated yet unique, instead of the ladies wearing bracelets the stems were dressed with their own jewelry of draped strands of pearls (which are now dressing my Christmas tree). The stems were then repurposed as the floral décor for the head table.
The men’s boutonnières were that of a classic deco like deep purple calla lily accompanied by a hint of lily grass and a whisper of feather strands. Traditionally mothers would wear corsages but in a non-traditional way of honoring our mothers we had them carry jewel tone styled nosegays which then would be joined together as one floral arrangement during the “Ave Maria: Tribute to Mothers” ceremony during the wedding service. These nosegays were then repurposed as table décor during the cocktail hour. During the wedding ceremony, the pews that lined the aisle of the chapel were adorned with candelabras with greenery of plumosa and Italian ruscus intertwined. The two front pews were designated for the immediate family and were decorated with pew markers of white hydrangeas, purple veronica, orchids, burgundy amaranthus and hints of jewels and pearls to be repurposed at the reception as seat décor, hanging on the backs of the Bride and Groom chairs at the bridal table. The reception florals consisted of organic floral arrangements consisting of feathers, purple hydrangeas, orchids, Minerva carnations, calla lilies, amaranthus and veronica displayed in various heights and containers of black glass, mercury glass and gold.
Due to the fact that the majority of our guests were from out of state, we wanted to spend as much time with our family and friends as possible after they made the trip to celebrate with us. Therefore, our Marry Me Munro Wedding Weekend began on Thursday night with a Halloween Karaoke Party in honor of the night we met and one of our favorite past times: “Last Song as Singles Costume Karaoke Kick Off Night”. The next day we had planned a “Marry Me Munro Golf Outing” but not only did tournament and wedding number 1 get rained out, so did tournament #2. Instead all of the men headed to the lanes to bowl while the ladies attended the “All the Single Ladies Luncheon” at Southern Pines Ironwood, followed by “Brews Before I Do’s” at the local Pinehurst Brewery.
If I could say one thing that I am proud we did for our wedding, it would be that we got to spend time with all of our guests local and from afar throughout the wedding weekend, as we had 11 events or 11 opportunities to mingle with our favorite people! At the end of the ceremony the ministers asked that everyone remain seated and Adam and I escorted every single guest out by pew allowing us to greet each and every one of them, which then allowed us to be able to spend all of our time at the reception out on the dance floor! Incorporating our culture and family traditions was something we had a lot of fun planning.
Adam’s father is from Scotland so we had a bagpiper play at the chapel to honor his Scottish heritage; as well as playing “On Eagle’s Wings” which was played at my parent’s wedding before the ceremony, and my families favorite church song “Lord of the Dance” with the bag piper at the end of the ceremony. Adam and I were driven to The Carolina Hotel after the ceremony in a 1920s Ford Model T which was perfect for the vibe of the wedding, but also a great tribute to Adam’s dad spending most of his life working for Ford in Detroit. At the wedding we had a few special dances one being the “Italian Tarantella” dance and then also both of our parent’s first dance songs. Another theme throughout our reception was that of the competition between Adam and I being from rivaling cities Chicago and Detroit. As an alternative to the traditional guest book signing, Adam and I had custom Munro 18 hockey jerseys made representing both the Chicago Blackhawks and the Detroit Redwings, however, this wasn’t the only time our guest had to pick a city, we also played our city’s theme songs during a rival dance floor picture of the entire wedding, and then again for the late night snack of “Chicago Dog” vs. “Coney Dog” hotdogs and popcorn. To go along with our humor, since our wedding was rescheduled due to Hurricane Florence our specialty drink at the Halloween Karaoke Party was Hurricanes, and our special moment songs were weather themed… our entrance was “Here I Am, Rock You Like a Hurricane”, bouquet toss was “It’s Raining Men”, and the garter toss was “Cyclone”. The weekend was everything we imagined it would be and it was wrapped up with an after party at Dugan’s Pub and a brunch the following morning at my parent’s house where the neighbors graciously drove guests to their parked cars by golf cart!
Like most girls, I had been dreaming of my wedding gown my whole life, I had even dreamt of being a wedding gown designer and drew my dream gowns that were hung on the walls of my bedroom growing up. With that being said, going wedding gown shopping was a day that I had been anxiously waiting for, and made a girly celebration for my mother and sister. After trying on over 20 dresses at two stores I assumed the third would find me out of luck as well however, the sales attendant saw my inspiration for a mermaid style gown that was art deco, classic and romantically inspired and all in one day I found my dress. At Elizabella’s Bridal Boutique in Greensboro, NC I will never forget what the woman said to me as I was deciding between two gowns; she had my mom and sister head to the other side of the store where a mirror stood, and told me that is what my groom would see when I entered the chapel, it was then that I knew which dress I had to say yes to! I loved the art deco intricate detail of the diamond patterned sequins on my gown, with slight sleeves draped off my shoulders and a deep v neckline, with an invisible back lined with floating buttons. The long train gave a vintage glamour that I was looking for with the right touch of elegance by my beaded shoes; it was a huge surprise to my family and I when it dawned on us that the dress I chose was the same style and silhouette as what I had drawn as a child.
Ever since I saw the movie “Sex In The City” where each bridesmaid wore a stunning evening gown representing their personality, I never imagined my bridesmaids matching, but rather wearing something that made them look and feel beautiful and proud to stand by my side on the best day of my life. I loved that each of their personalities showed through a long formal dress in either all black or black and gold while my sister, who is my best friend and was my maid of honor stood out in wearing all gold sequins. Adam wanted his men to look classic and dapper in their formal attire of tuxedos which he had a tuxedo custom made for his special day with a James Bond like shawl collar, and cuff links representing the Munro family crest. His father sported his Scottish wedding garb by sporting a traditional kilt similar to what he wore for his own wedding. The evening was a fabulous event that allowed our friends and families to dress up as much as they would like, as many wore long evening gowns and tuxedos while the weather allowed a few of the ladies to bring out their fur accents.
It all started on Halloween, when a French Maid met the Dos Equis Most Interesting Man in the World. Adam and I were introduced at a party of mutual friends in a neighborhood outside the apartment complex we both lived in. We naturally sparked conversation while I tried to figure out who this handsome man in a suit and spray-painted grey hair could be, and he kept me laughing with outrageous tales that could only be real in a Dos Equis commercial. After many laughs, pictures and dancing that night, we realized when everyone was getting their rides home that we lived at the same apartment complex. One would assume the rest was history; however, we were separated by friends heading in different directions and we ended the night without exchanging numbers. It wasn’t until the following weekend, when we were each convinced separately by friends to get a nightcap, that we were reunited. When leaving the bar that night, Adam told me he wasn’t going to let me get away again without exchanging numbers.
On the night of our 3rd anniversary, I kidnapped Adam and took him to Charlotte, NC for a concert. Little did I know, Adam had ordered my ring that same day – now it makes sense why he was on such an adrenaline rush and excited to be kidnapped! When I opened my anniversary gift from Adam, it had a theme; this gorgeous winter coat I had my eye on and a purple pullover with an invitation for a romantic anniversary/Christmas weekend in Asheville, NC. Flash forward to our anniversary/Christmas getaway weekend: Friday afternoon in the office and everyone starts leaving early because a snow storm is headed our way in North Carolina! All of my co-workers kept saying, “you aren’t headed to Asheville, they are getting ice tonight!” All I could think was that Adam will still want to go, since we are from the Midwest and we can handle it! Next thing I know Adam is working late and moving our trip to the following day. If I was ever suspicious, all of my hopes were crushed, because if Adam was going to propose, he wasn’t going to let any snow or ice stop him – yet here he was, canceling our trip for the night. By the time we woke up in the morning, we were surrounded by a winter wonderland and ready to face the storm, headed to the mountains in the daylight. I am so glad we waited because we were the only crazy people on the road and each curve of the mountain was frosted with snow, each branch iced with icicles. It was a pure Christmas snow globe (or something out of a Hallmark movie)!
Little did I know, my sister and two of our friends were following about 30 minutes behind us. Once we arrived at the Grove Park Inn, a timeless North Carolina Christmas setting, we got a cocktail and toured the famous ginger bread house exhibit (Adam thought if he got me a cocktail that I would want to stop by the Ladies’ room before brunch so he could finalize plans with the concierge but, nope, this was the one time in my life I didn’t need to use the restroom! This was the first wrench I threw in Adam’s plans). Shortly afterwards, my sister, Lexi, and the girls stake themselves out in the lobby. Adam thinks I know where I’m going, yet I had taken us to the opposite wing from where brunch was and without any warning we had to cross back through the lobby as the girls were hiding under tables trying to keep the surprise. (This was wrench number 2.) Brunch was out-of-this-world amazing! We practically had a tour guide who took us through 3 different rooms of decadent desserts, scrumptious cold plates and delicious hot foods before seating us at a table with the best view of the mountains that Asheville could offer. After seeing all that the buffet had to offer, Adam only went up once for his basic breakfast and hardly ate, but kept saying how hot he was because “his window wasn’t tinted.” Just as I never thought dressing up last minute as a French Maid would change my life, I never thought going up to this museum of a buffet 3 times would be a story that would be told for the rest of our lives. Once I was finally done sampling the entire menu, it was time for me to freshen up with a thick layer of red hot lipstick, and as we walked to the lobby Adam kept acting like a weirdo and wanted me to stay on his right side as we walked (so I wouldn’t brush against the ring box). Lexi was texting everyone, “How could she possibly still be hungry?” as we stood in line for hot chocolate cocktails served from a bar made out of a real gingerbreadhouse….so who wouldn’t be able to make room for that?! Adam led me outside to the real reason everyone goes to the Grove Park Inn – the Inn is built into the side of a mountain and has the most breathtaking views of the mountains. There was a lower deck that was roped off; Adam tried to get me to go down there but I didn’t see why we couldn’t enjoy the view from where everyone else was (this was wrench #3). After convincing me to live a little and break the rules, he began to brush off the snow that was piled high on one of the chairs so that we could sit down. I looked at him like he was crazy and said, “NO!” (as if I was going to get my dress wet in a puddle of melted snow, wrench #4).
So now we are finally enjoying the view and Adam looks me in the eye with confidence and a smile and proceeds to say the most romantic and thoughtful toast about the way he feels about me, telling me he loves me and wishes me a Merry Christmas, Happy Anniversary and to many more! I toasted him and looked back to gaze out at the snow covered mountains beaming in the sun, and said, “This is the most perfect day.” It was at that moment that I felt his fingers grasp mine from behind as if whispering to turn me around. When I did, Adam, the man I had dreamed of all my life was, down on one knee looking up and smiling at me. He then responded with, “It really is. Will you marry me?” I immediately, before he even spoke the words, gasped and covered my mouth in shock as he held onto my hand. I also started sobbing, or as Adam recalls, went from zero to weeping. He likes to say that the tears didn’t even hit my cheek, they poured straight to the ground! I somehow managed to nod my head and squeal “Yes” through the tears which had smeared hair all over my face! When Adam stood up, now as my Fiancé, I instantly wrapped my arms around his neck and covered him with red kisses (bad timing on the thick layer of red lipstick). As I wiped the smudged lips from all over his chin and nose, and didn’t think I could possibly be more surprised, I heard a “Whoop Whoop” from above. When I glanced up to see where the cheering was coming from, I saw none other than my sister Lexi and 2 of our girlfriends (I covered my mouth again, thinking I screamed as they ran down to greet the new soon-to-be Mr. and Mrs., only to be informed by Adam that no sound actually came out because I was too out of breath from crying!) Not only had Adam planned the perfect romantic Christmas getaway but he had made me the happiest woman in the world, his fiancée, and had my sister photograph the whole proposal!
I believe the most anticipated part of our wedding for me was the grand entrance when the doors opened to the organ and the bagpiper playing “Highland Cathedral March” and seeing Adam at the alter while my dad walked me down the aisle. The second most anticipated moment for me was saying our vows which Adam and I both searched for the vows that embodied us as a couple, and then we recited them by memory.
Our advice to other couples would be to plan in advance so that you don’t stress yourself out through the process. Also, this is supposed to be the happiest day of your life so find reasons to make each step a celebration throughout the process. Stay organized, think about what you are wanting and provide examples for your vendors. On the day of your wedding plan plenty of time to get ready with your girls and guys as this will set the tone for your day and you want to feel relaxed and excited. Try to make time to spend with as many of your guests as possible. Expect the unexpected, and go with the flow especially for the day of. We had a hurricane cancel our original wedding and instead of letting it ruin the most special time of our life we embraced that weekend as time to join our two immediate families together in a big slumber party. Once the second wedding weekend came we were much more relaxed as we knew so much had already gone not as planned, that we were just beyond grateful to have all of our family and loved ones rescheduled to celebrate with us; which then became an even more memorable occasion! You plan this time only once, so enjoy every moment of it, and take mental photos to remember all of the highlights of your first event as a married couple.