“Wedding Planning Marries Wellness”
History dictates so much of what happens in life. We get engaged, we share our excitement with all those that we love, some might still pull out that hope chest from under the bed or dust off the time capsule buried away from years ago, and then the planning begins.
We all have the best of intentions; we want that fairy tale dream day that appears in the movies and on the Hallmark Channel. However, the reality is that we find ourselves filled with anxiety and sleepless nights, glad that people are focusing on looking down at the new shiny object on our left hand vs. the dark circles forming under our eyes.
Out of nowhere you awake in a cold sweat, your heart is racing in panic as you are hearing the incoming ring tone set for your Mother-in-Law to be. The voice message replaying in your head over and over of her saying she is on her way this weekend to begin the planning.
Next the texts start to flood in from your besties asking about when you are all going dress shopping, all while you are staring down at the cold container of Ben & Jerry’s you are grasping with your other hand.
You are under a heavy work deadline and you parents are asking you to attend an early dinner to discuss wedding budget and their must have guest list. When all you want to do is curl up on the sofa under a blanket with your dog and catch up on much needed sleep. Oh no….the dog, I need to get home and let the dog out! It seems there are just not enough hours in a day, and now you have to fit in planning a wedding.
I am here to tell you it does not have to be this way. What I know from hands on experience working side by side with hundreds of wedding clients over the course of two decades is how fast things can begin to spiral out of control and how this can set the tone and spill over into key relationships for many years to come, sometimes forever!
By marrying wedding planning to wellness, I have created the perfect recipe for a stress-free bride. The ingredients include:
-Healthy Eating + Meal Prepping
All topped off and sprinkled with Wedding Planning; served with suggested sides of “zero screen time” and “date night wedding free zones”!
Say Yes to No Stress! There is a healthy and holistic approach to being happily engaged and enjoying the entire planning journey vs. just the wedding day. You can be a Bride that maintains her sanity through balancing your career, family dynamics and being Fiance of the year! Building a pause into an overwhelming day can help your mind to slow down, reset, and recharge, make you time every single day, we are at our best and make clear decisions and choices when we are not stressed. Rest should equal restoration in seven key areas of your life.
The first type of rest we need is physical rest, which can be passive or active
Passive physical rest includes sleeping and napping, while active physical rest means restorative activities such as yoga, stretching and massage therapy that help improve the body’s circulation and flexibility.
The second type of rest is mental rest
Do you know that coworker who starts work every day with a huge cup of coffee? He is often irritable and forgetful, and he has a difficult time concentrating on his work. When he lies down at night to sleep, he frequently struggles to turn off his brain as conversations from the day fill his thoughts. And despite sleeping seven to eight hours, he wakes up feeling as if he never went to bed. He has a mental rest deficit.
The good news is you do not have to quit your job or go on vacation to fix this. Schedule short breaks to occur every two hours throughout your workday; these breaks can remind you to slow down. You might also keep a notepad by the bed to jot down any nagging thoughts that would keep you awake.
The third type of rest we need is sensory rest
Bright lights, computer screens, background noise and multiple conversations — whether they are in an office or on Zoom calls — can cause our senses to feel overwhelmed. This can be countered by doing something as simple as closing your eyes for a minute in the middle of the day, as well as by intentionally unplugging from electronics at the end of every day. Intentional moments of sensory deprivation can begin to undo the damage inflicted by the over-stimulating world.
The fourth type of rest is creative rest
This type of rest is especially important for anyone who must solve problems or brainstorm new ideas. Creative rest reawakens the awe and wonder inside each of us. Do you recall the first time you saw the Grand Canyon, the ocean, or a waterfall? Allowing yourself to take in the beauty of the outdoors — even if it is at a local park or in your backyard — provides you with creative rest.
But creative rest is not simply about appreciating nature; it also includes enjoying the arts. Turn your workspace into a place of inspiration by displaying images of places you love and works of art that speak to you. You cannot spend 40 hours a week staring at blank or jumbled surroundings and expect to feel passionate about anything, much less come up with innovative ideas.
Now let us take a look at another individual — the friend whom everyone thinks is the nicest person they’ve ever met. It is the person everyone depends on, the one you would call if you needed a favor because even if they do not want to do it, you know they will give you a reluctant “yes” rather than a truthful “no”. But when this person is alone, they feel unappreciated and like others are taking advantage of them.
This person requires emotional rest, which means having the time and space to freely express your feelings and cut back on people pleasing
Emotional rest also requires the courage to be authentic. An emotionally rested person can answer the question “How are you today?” with a truthful “I’m not okay” — and then go on to share some hard things that otherwise go unsaid.
If you need emotional rest, you probably have a social rest deficit too
This occurs when we fail to differentiate between those relationships that revive us from those relationships that exhaust us. To experience more social rest, surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Even if your interactions must occur virtually, you can choose to engage more fully in them by turning on your camera and focusing on who you are speaking to.
The final type of rest is spiritual rest, which is the ability to connect beyond the physical and mental and feel a deep sense of belonging, love, acceptance, and purpose
To receive this, engage in something greater than yourself and add prayer, meditation, or community involvement to your daily routine.
As you can see, sleep alone cannot restore us to the point we feel rested. So, it is time for us to begin focusing on getting the right type of rest we need.
Brides to Be…
Be Our Guest on March 7, 2021 at 10:30 AM EST for a mini virtual version of our bridal retreats. You can sign up for free in our pop-up Facebook Group | Virtual Bridal Retreat. We have 3 hours of fun for you and we will be giving away a Planning-Moon for 2 in Florida as well as a set of the “idoin30” wedding planning and wellness card set.
Would you like to find out what type of Bride you are? Pop over to our website and take a free quiz with instant results at TheBridalRetreat.com and if you have any wedding questions you can join me weekly live at 10am EST on Facebook at @Leftovercakechat where I chat everything weddings while eating cake and drinking champagne in my pj’s! Cheers to you and a happy and healthy wedding planning journey!
Kristin Sullivan | Wedding & Wellness Coach | Chief Celebration Officer @Swivel Group Events Creator of The Bridal Retreat + idoin30 wedding & wellness planning deck + a wedding journal + hipbetty